I don't include a section dedicated to 'dementia activities' in my Activity Coordinators Toolbox.
I'm often asked "Why not?"
The truth is, people with dementia don't need special activities that are suitable for 'everyone with dementia'. They need to be included, as much as possible, in the activities that are available for every other resident too.
With set 'dementia activities' we also run the risk of dishing up activities that can be patronising, or infantilising for individuals. Activities which have nothing to do with who they are, activities that can feel demoralising for us and for them.
When it comes to planning activities, activity coordinators need to be careful of treating people with dementia like infants.
However, if we focus on the aspects of caregiving that come from a place of love, respect and understanding, we will find that there are times that treating people with dementia like infants is beneficial.
Meeting basic needs first:
Just as we instinctively check a baby’s hunger, thirst, or comfort when they cry, we should do the same for someone with dementia. If they are distressed, it’s often due to an unmet need they can’t always express clearly. Ensuring they are comfortable, well-fed, and hydrated is a foundation of compassionate care.
Responding with emotion, not just logic:
A crying baby doesn’t always stop because you say, "You're okay." Sometimes, they need to feel felt. Sitting with them, holding them, and sharing their distress can be powerful.
People with dementia also respond deeply to emotional connection - sometimes more than words or logic.
Sitting with them, holding their hand, and showing that you feel their distress can be incredibly reassuring.
Providing reassurance and security:
Babies need a safe, predictable environment to feel secure. Similarly, people with dementia often feel frightened and confused by the world around them. Creating a calm, structured routine and offering gentle reassurance - much like you would with a young child - helps them feel safe.
Communicating with simplicity and patience:
When speaking to young children, we naturally slow down, simplify our words, and use clear, kind tones. This isn’t patronising - it’s about making the communication easier to process.
People with dementia benefit from the same approach - clear, simple language, paired with warmth and patience.
Emphasising joy, play and comfort:
Just as we instinctively engage babies and toddlers with songs, sensory play, and soothing activities, people with dementia often respond well to these things too.
Singing together, engaging in sensory experiences like stroking a soft blanket, or simply sharing laughter can be incredibly meaningful.
The key difference is respect. An infant is learning the world for the first time, while a person with dementia is navigating the loss of the world they once knew.
But in both cases, responding with love, patience, and instinctive care is never the wrong approach.
The Activity Coordinators Toolbox is filled with inclusive and meaningful activity ideas for every resident. Click here for more.
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